For parents, their children’s education is very important, and their children’s sex education cannot be neglected. But without the right guidance, important moments in sex education are often missed.
In fact, for children, sex education is not static. It also has its own time period. There are five important periods in children’s sex education. By seizing these moments, children’s sex education will become easier.
1. Oral stage - age stage: 3 months to 1 year old
Between 3 months and 1 year old, babies have a particularly prominent need for attraction and like to suck their fingers. This is the first manifestation of the baby’s sexual desire during the oral phase.
The physical contact between mother and child can increase the sensitivity of the child's nervous system and promote the differentiation and development of the child's brain. Children who have insufficient physical contact with adults will suffer varying degrees of damage to their intelligence and sexual sensitivity. If the baby bites his fingers, do not forcibly stop it. You can consider giving the baby soothing nipples to satisfy his oral needs.
2. Fuzzy period - age stage: 1~2 years old
Generally starting from the age of 1 to 2, children will begin to notice the physical differences between males and females. With the development of language ability, children aged 2 to 3 years old will ask some sex-related questions. If children do not receive correct guidance during this period, it will affect their future growth.
One and a half years old is a good time to educate children on sexual physiology. If possible, you can even let boys and girls of the same age take a bath together, let them expose their bodies to identify the differences in each other's physiological structure, and encourage them to observe how the other person is different from themselves. .
3. Sexual bud stage - age stage: 2 years old to 4 years old
Children enter the sexual bud stage when they are 2 to 4 years old. Sex education during this period is the basis for future sexual maturity. Many children start playing with their genitals around the age of 2. This is a kind of sexual play for them.
A better way to prevent children from playing with their genitals is to wear underwear and arrange colorful activities for them every day to divert their attention. Parents can choose the right time to let their children understand which parts of their bodies are private parts and should not be exposed. At the same time, they should tell their children how to protect their private parts.
4. During the love period - age stage: 4 years old to 6 years old
Children during this period begin to fall in love, also known as the love of the mother in love (the father in love). This complex is prevalent in the sexual and psychological development of children and is suppressed by the subconscious mind. It may become the psychological root of various mental illnesses in the future.
A warm and happy family has a profound impact on children. Same-sex parents are models for children to form their gender consciousness, and opposite-sex parents are models for children to learn to interact with the opposite sex. Therefore, both mothers and fathers must actively cooperate to raise their children together and give them a good growth environment.
5. Potential period - age stage: 6 years old to 12 years old
Children enter the latent period from 6 to 12 years old, which is the latent period of children's gender awareness. The sexual psychology of children at this stage is relatively calm. The children's attention is mainly focused on learning social knowledge and cultivating interests. Timely sex education for children is beneficial to forming a healthy personality and can lay the foundation for correctly handling gender relations after they enter adolescence. A solid foundation of character.
So how should we carry out sex education for children, and what should we pay attention to?
1. Don’t ignore gender education
Many parents tend to ignore gender education when carrying out sex education. Gender education has an important impact on children's future development. It can help children master normal social skills, but parents who ignore their children's gender education will cause gender cognitive impairment in their children, and even affect their future social interactions, love, and even marriage.
2. Avoid serious discussions about sex knowledge
Parents should not carry out sex education seriously. It is best to integrate it into their children's daily lives, educate them through specific events, or watch relevant sex education animations and books, which will help their children understand and educate them better.
3. Actively answer children’s sexual questions
Parents should seize the opportunity when their children raise sexual issues for the first time, treat children's sexual issues calmly, answer them positively, give their children correct guidance, avoid scolding, or intentionally avoid children's sexual issues. Parents can usually refer to books on sexual knowledge, This will prevent the child from not knowing how to answer the question.
Let children fully understand their own gender, accept gender differences, and not use specific behaviors to define gender. Learn to get along with the opposite sex correctly, do not use gender as a restriction or capital, and respect the differences between men and women. Of course, this matter is not just a gender issue, but also a moral issue. Children are not only the future of the family, but also the future of society. It is extremely necessary to provide children with correct sex education.