Why do we moan during sex?
It is normal to moan or shout during sex, just like when we eat delicious food or smell a good smell, we will unconsciously make sounds to express our happiness. So, from a scientific point of view, why do we have to moan during sex?
• Normal physiological phenomenon
John Alexander Moreno, a neuropsychologist, researcher, and assistant professor of psychology at the University of Montreal, believes that "many aspects of sexual response are related to specific areas of the brain."
When our body feels good, the brain releases dopamine, which triggers the reward center and lets us know that what is going on at the moment is going very well. This is a normal physiological phenomenon.
Especially when having a wonderful sex, the feeling of pleasure will make people moan unconsciously, and these are all happening subconsciously.
• For sexual arousal
During sexual arousal, in addition to the genitals, other body organs will also participate. When we moan during sex, the brain will record these sounds as a response to stimulation and send corresponding signals to the genitals: the "master" is ready to start sexual arousal.
For a simple example, what does it feel like when we turn off the sound when watching porn?
• Signal to your partner: You are doing well
Many people moan during sex to tell their partners: "You are doing well, I enjoy it." Feeling your positive response, the other person will also understand what kind of behavior will excite you.
In 2011, Gail Brewer of the University of Central Lancashire and Colin Hendry of the University of Leeds published their study, "Vocations during Coitus," in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. In this study, they asked 71 sexually active heterosexual women aged between 18 and 48 to get more details about moaning during sex.
The researchers found that many women moan during sex, not necessarily when they orgasm. On the contrary, 66% said they moaned to speed up their partner's orgasm, and 87% said they moaned to boost their partner's self-esteem.
In addition, there are reports that women also make sounds during sex to relieve boredom, fatigue and pain.
It has to be said that although loud moans when excited may double the pleasure of each other, if one party does not feel good during sex, there is really no need to cooperate with the performance, because the other party cannot realize the problem and learn to improve. It is more important to communicate in time.
The benefits of moaning
• The louder you scream, the stronger the orgasm may be
Although we mentioned above that some women will moan for their partner's feelings, in some cases, moaning does speed up women's orgasm.
A study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships in 2012 showed that moaning can enhance the intimate experience. The study also mentioned the "Zen effect", which means that when a person is immersed in moaning, they will focus more on the current feelings and bring a stronger orgasm.
In addition, moaning can also activate the muscles of the throat, chest and abdomen, increase blood circulation, and transmit pleasure to the whole body; combined with breathing, it can not only make people feel more comfortable, but also relax the pelvic floor muscles, thereby enhancing pleasure.
• Release yourself
When people make loud moans during sex, it usually means that they are no longer suppressed and completely release themselves at that moment.
For example, when tennis players smash the ball on the court, they often make muffled sounds. Researchers at the University of Nebraska Omaha studied this phenomenon and found that if professional players make muffled sounds when hitting the ball, their ball speed will increase by 3.8%. Similarly, making muffled sounds, moans, screams, etc. during sex may also increase the pleasure of sexual behavior.
• Make the experience between partners more intimate
Human voice is a very critical way to express emotions, and it can convey any signal.
In sex, moaning can show that we are eager to be explored and enjoy such a process. For those who are not good at or shy to affirm their partners with words, pleasant moans are the most direct affirmation of each other's performance.
And moaning is a very private sound. When we show our feelings to our partners generously, it is also a kind of honesty, which unconsciously enhances the intimacy between each other.
Speaking of this, I believe everyone has discovered one thing. We seem to have been talking about "women's moans during sex". After all, most men do not make moaning sounds, at most a few muffled groans. Why is this?
Why are men always silent during sex?
• Stereotypes/misleading pornography
In most pornographic works, sex is dominated by men. How to tease their partners, what kind of love words to say, when to go fast and when to go slow are all decided by them, and "man on top, woman on bottom" is the most commonly used position. It seems to convey to us a kind of unspoken rule that men are inconvenient to make sounds when they are in the upper position, while women in the lower position not only enjoy the fruits of their labor, but also have to make pleasant moans...
But there is not only one sex position, women can also take the lead in sex. Studies have shown that women on top are more likely to get orgasms.
• Social and psychological reasons
Men who grew up in traditional families are taught from childhood not to express their emotions at will and to learn to be tolerant. This influence is so deep-rooted that many people think that making noises during sex is not manly. For example, moaning and screaming are considered to be a sign of weakness.
It is precisely because of this limitation of thinking that many men may be unwilling to express their true feelings, or express them in a more obscure way (physical hints or verbal affirmation).
• Men cannot handle multiple "tasks" at the same time
During sex, most men focus their attention elsewhere, such as: arousing their partner's sexual desire through kissing, licking, etc., listening and feeling their partner's reactions to make adjustments, diverting attention to control ejaculation time... Therefore, when men are silent, it does not necessarily mean that they are unhappy, they may just have no time to respond.
There is a post on Quora: Do women like men to moan during sex or are they disgusted by it? Many women say that they like men to moan in their ears, which is sexy and will make them reach orgasm faster.
So, male friends can throw away the so-called face and scream when you want to scream! Maybe you can get a different sexual experience~
If you enjoy moaning during sex, you can encourage your partner to give feedback through moaning when you feel pleasure; but if you are a silent person, you don’t have to force yourself to make a sound. After all, facial expressions or body reactions can also feel whether each other is immersed in the sex at this moment.
Also, if you don’t feel pleasure during the process or are not sure how the other person feels, don’t worry about it, just ask and communicate boldly!
