Have you tried phone sex?

Have you tried phone sex?

Phone sex is a virtual sexual act in which two or more participants obtain sexual pleasure by narrating sexual content over the phone. At the same time, telephone sex is based on the voluntary participation of participants.

Phone sex usually occurs in two situations. One is in a personal relationship, such as long-distance partners comforting each other on the phone, or someone flirting with a stranger over the phone to seek excitement. Another scenario is a business transaction, which is pay phone sex between a paying customer and a professional phone sex operator.

There are many types of phone sex, including mutual masturbation with sexually suggestive sounds, guided masturbation, fantasy role play, erotic storytelling, sexual confession, sexual memory review, dirty talk, sexual hypnosis, phone domination, etc. 

Most phone sex conversations revolve around sexual experiences, such as penetrative sex in various positions, oral sex, and stroking of genitals. However, some phone sex (especially commercial sex services) involve some taboo topics, such as anal sex, animal sex, and even unwanted sexual behaviors such as sexual harassment and violent sex. This taboo phone conversation provides a semi-anonymous outlet for participants' unconventional, unacceptable desires that they cannot fulfill in real life.

Of course, most modern phone sex happens between lovers. According to a survey by Internet phone company Vonage Canada & Decima Research, 53% of men and women have had phone sex with a close friend or partner.

Phone sex has also helped many modern couples living in different cities maintain long-distance relationships. In a 2005 Vonage/Decima survey, more than 75% of people believed that phone sex was "very" or "somewhat" important in long-distance relationships. There are also couples who engage in phone sex even if they live close to each other.

 

How to do phone sex?


You can drink a little wine before you start and imagine a tipsy state, which will help you get into the state better. Play entertaining music, dim the room lights, and light some aromatherapy. Taking a bath and putting on sexy pajamas is a very important ritual.


In terms of environment, choose a relatively private and familiar space and lock the door to prevent being disturbed.


Turn on hands-free, or prepare a pair of headphones to free your hands.
Remember to be in a place with a better signal, otherwise the intermittent signal will affect the experience.


Always pay attention to the situation and feelings of the other person on the other end of the phone, and don’t just focus on yourself.


A very important point of phone sex is to allow both parties to be "immersed in the scene" and use language to arouse each other's desires.


At this time, you can use some language to describe the status, such as "I only have a pair of underwear left on me."
Or some guiding words, "Louder, I like to hear your soft voice", "Stop, I'll ask you to move before you can continue."


In addition to these, you can also adopt a submissive or dominant role. Letting your partner decide when you can start masturbating can make your phone sex more interactive: not only can you control the process, but it can also be more exciting.


The meaning of phone sex


Physically speaking, phone sex is safe because there is no physical contact, there is no exchange of bodily fluids, and there is no risk of infectious disease or unwanted pregnancy. This is why some people choose phone sex when they want to have sex with a stranger. In addition, phone sex can also provide a virtual space for some crazy and taboo sexual fantasies, without exposing the fantasist to moral judgment or harming other innocent people in real life.

Some people believe that phone sex can increase participants' sexual knowledge at the physical level and improve their sexual skills. During phone sex between lovers, one party can accompany the partner's voice and explore the body at his own pace without having to worry about the sexual pressure caused by face-to-face contact, and can better focus on improving his own sexual experience.

Others believe that factors such as intelligence, imagination, empathy, creativity, and listening skills are more important in phone sex. Phone sex can also increase people's sexual intelligence. Since this form is separated from vision and touch, and only has a pure auditory experience, which amplifies hearing and imagination, the desire to listen and express will be stronger than usual, and listening skills and creativity will be better.

Perhaps people have long been aware of the importance of verbal communication in a good sexual experience, but many people feel embarrassed and embarrassed to talk about their sexual feelings and fantasies during actual sex or face-to-face contact with their partners. Phone sex can give people a sense of security. Compared with real-life conversations, phone conversations can be more relaxed. In this sense, phone sex is another way for people to reveal themselves to their partners.

In addition to the positive effects, phone sex also has hidden dangers. Some people rely too much on phone sex, even to the point of being uncontrollable. Although there is no clinical classification of "phone sex addiction," people who are addicted to it may suffer from real-life sexual behavior when they do not have sex on the phone.

For example, in a counseling case about sexual psychological disorders, the counselor (male) said that he and his wife frequently had phone sex while they were in a long-distance relationship. After the long-distance relationship ended, they would still "each hold a mobile phone, tell obscene jokes or imitate the sex sounds in movies and TV shows" when having sex face to face to increase excitement, but since then both parties have gradually become strongly dependent on phone sex.

If he does not use the phone, he will experience symptoms such as low sexual desire, delayed ejaculation, and difficulty in experiencing pleasure. His wife's sexual desire and orgasm are also related to this. However, this kind of over-reliance on phone sex that affects the quality of sex between couples is only a clinical case, and there is currently no evidence to prove its universality.

Therefore, we should look at phone sex from a dialectical perspective. Moderate use of phone sex may be helpful in improving the quality of sex and adding fun to sex, but you need to be careful not to indulge in it.

In addition, it should be noted that phone sex between lovers should follow the principles of equality, respect, and voluntariness, and privacy protection should be paid attention to during the process.

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