Have you ever experienced that after playing with sex toys, your clitoris feels less sensitive than before? Every time you use a toy to stimulate it, you have to use a stronger gear than the last time to climax, so you worry about whether using sex toys will cause harm to your body.
Sometimes it can even feel numb and without pleasure.
This is why? Why are private parts "numb"?
First, you need to determine what kind of "numbness" you have?
One is that the private parts are insensitive and it is difficult to produce pleasure during sex. This situation is mainly related to hormonal changes.
Female hormones are at high levels before and after ovulation and menstruation. This is a normal physiological fluctuation.
At this time, you will find that it is easier to feel pleasure when playing with toys or receiving sexual stimulation.
However, if you find that you are in a low-sensitivity state for one month in a row, you should consider whether stress, emotion and other factors are causing endocrine disorders.
Another condition is caused by irritation of the genital nerves.
This feeling of numbness is completely different from the previous "numbness". It means you are satisfied and need more before you can climax again. This is a normal neurological response.
So, if this is the case, whether there will be any damage to the private parts is what most people are worried about.
Excessive use of sex toys can indeed cause temporary numbness in the private parts after orgasm, and even soreness in the lower body.
But this kind of numbness is temporary. It just reminds you that it's time to end. It will not cause irreversible damage to the body.
This kind of "numbness" is just because your threshold for this "stimulation method" has increased, so it is more difficult for you to feel it.
Give a simple example:
On Valentine's Day, your boyfriend gave you a large bouquet of roses. After you got it, you held it and smelled it for a long time.
The aroma is refreshing at first, but after a few seconds, do you feel that the smell is not that strong anymore? But if you smell the coffee beans now, they still smell.
In fact, the same is true if sex toys are used too much. The change in the threshold is only temporary. Just change it. Your sensitivity will not become worse, and it will not be difficult to recover, so don't worry too much.
The truth is this. However, sex toys always bear pressure that does not belong to them:
"If the clitoris is stimulated for a long time, it will become insensitive."
“If you play with a vibrator too much, your private parts will become enlarged and loose.”
"It's really nice to use toys, but am I still a good girl? Will he think I'm too slutty?"
Some girls, because their boyfriends don’t like sex toys, give up in the end even if they really want to try them.
There are also some girls who are exposed to sex toys for the first time and find that they are "numb" and never dare to play with them again. (The essential reason behind this is still caused by sexual stigma. No one will feel ashamed for eating two more bites of fruit, right?)
In fact, it’s not necessary.
Studies have found that the orgasm rate of women during masturbation is over 85%, but in the sexual life of both sexes, the orgasm rate is less than 30%.
This means that if you have never had an orgasm during sex, you should try more, masturbate or use sex toys.
Almost every man's first time is dedicated to his own hands during adolescence. Therefore, when making love, they are already familiar with it and know how to make themselves happy and how to make you happier.
But some girls don't know where their sensitive points are if it's not their first time having sex.
If you don’t have the confidence to control your orgasm, your charm in bed will naturally be greatly reduced.
Sex toys are an excellent tool for exploring your own sensitive points.
So what should you pay attention to when masturbating with toys?
01. Choose toys that suit you
Usually the toys we choose mostly rely on the comfort of others, but what others think is good may not be suitable for you.
Especially if your private parts are sensitive and the force of the toy is relatively strong, it may temporarily numb you and ruin your overall experience with the toy.
02. Create an atmosphere
Even if you are masturbating, you still need to love yourself.
When you play with toys alone and no one disturbs you, you can focus more on the atmosphere and foreplay.
Choose a piece of soothing music, or choose an erotic movie, read a wonderful pornographic article, and develop rich sexual fantasies.
Turn on a scented diffuser, or light a sex candle.
Adjust the light in the room. It is recommended to use warm yellow light.
Remember to set your phone to Do Not Disturb mode to prevent "inopportune" messages from disturbing you.
03. Slow down and don’t rush
Caressing can be seen as a part of sex, even a very important part.
So in practice, you can take more time to relax your body and warm up your sensitive areas.
Before masturbating, wash your hands and keep them warm.
Then lie on the bed and gently touch your body with your fingertips. It must be gentle and slow. It is not too much to move your fingers only 2-3 centimeters per second.
If you have a bathtub at home, you can also put some rose petals in the pool and caress yourself carefully.
The clitoris is the most important sensitive point for you to reach orgasm, so you can focus on the clitoral tissue and carefully explore every inch of the skin.
When it becomes unbearably hungry and thirsty, use toys to stimulate it from far to near. In this way, even if you use the lowest setting, it will be easy to feel comfortable.
If you have no foreplay and use the highest level to stimulate your clitoris, it will not only be extremely uncomfortable, but will also raise your threshold suddenly, and you will end up with a "flash orgasm".
04. Change different stimulation methods
If you exert force in one area and in one way every time, then this area will gradually become "numb".
However, if you know how to change the stimulation methods and stimulation points, then not only will you not be numb, but you will keep all sensitive areas in a high-sensitivity state!
For example, when it comes to choosing toys, you can enjoy the gentle caress of a vibrator this time and the fierce attack of a sucking toy the next time.
In terms of massage techniques, there is a degree of relaxation, moist, gentle, and violent... alternately.
On the sensitive point, you can stimulate the C point for the first time, the G point for the second time, and the A and B points for the third time, in this way.
05. Seek medical attention as soon as possible if you feel unwell.
If your vaginal numbness has lasted for a period of time and is also accompanied by buttock pain, lower limb weakness, thigh numbness, and difficulty urinating, you must seek medical treatment as soon as possible to rule out physiological diseases.
In short, there will be no problems with normal use, so feel free to play with confidence. The most important thing is to be kind to yourself!
